Can you believe that Lifetime’s Married at First Sight is currently in its sixth season? The social experiment that tends to be both fascinating and frustrating to watch is back with three new couples and already some hints of some bona fide drama.
As we were thinking about the show from the perspective of “What are those couples up to now?”, here’s what we discovered. Out of the 18 couples who were matched and married, it appears that a whopping four are still together (sounds a lot like The Bachelor and The Bachelorette’s odds if you ask us).
Geeze. When you look at it that way, it doesn’t sound like anything that’s really worth the risk. After all, these people aren’t signing up to go on a date with someone they were paired with (that they don’t know). They are legally married from day one. Based on how sacred you personally find marriage to be compounded by how things may turn out (again, the odds haven’t appeared to be the best), that has the potential to be (maybe) good TV for audiences but semi-devastating for the participants.
That doesn’t mean that observing how these brave couples take on this kind of experiment—with cameras basically documenting their every move—doesn’t provide us with some lessons that we can apply to our own relationship.
Take last season (Season Five), for example.
Anthony D’Amico and Ashley Petty
The only couple to remain married from their season are two who taught us one very important thing—the importance of compromise. If you watched the season, you may remember that Anthony wanted Ashley to take his name (she said she might once they have kids) and Ashley wanted to have children right away.
As of today, Ashley still appears to have her maiden name and they have continued to put children on hold. Their social media pages definitely make them appear to be #couplesgoals and we wouldn’t doubt in the least that it was because rather than trying to change each other’s minds, they’re accepting each other as individuals and are building a life of love on that. That’s truly awesome. Good for them!
Nate Duhon and Sheila Downs
Nate? He was the charm of the season. No question. Charm comes with its pros and cons. Sheila? There were some things about her that were cool, but more times than not, what she appeared to be was condescending and also—unhealed.
Sheila made it no secret that she had a pretty bad break-up with a guy who had cheated on her, but it seemed like he was more a part of her present than her past because Nate was getting accused of cheating too (he claims he never did, by the way).
Sheila’s speculations apparently are the ultimate reason behind why they decided to call it quits.
We didn’t live with them. Only they know what truly did go down. But what Sheila personally taught us is if you’re not over what someone else has done to you, it’s not a good idea to start up a new relationship. You’ll find yourself constantly comparing and that could end up being a form of self-sabotage.
Cody Knapek and Danielle DeGroot
In the grand scheme of things, waiting six to eight weeks to have sex with someone you just met isn’t unreasonable. Not at all. But when you sign up to GET MARRIED, sex is a part of marriage.
We’re not sure if Danielle really got that memo. We’re also wondering if her need for a “real man” was more about wanting a Disney prince than an actual human being. And Cody? He wasn’t really the best communicator on the planet. He talked about his need for sex on loop, but intimacy didn’t seem to be his strong suit.
Moral to the story. Before getting into a serious relationship, spend some quality time asking yourself if you like the idea of commitment and marriage or the idea of it. This point alone could probably reduce the divorce rate by at least 30 percent.
Thanks for the Married at First Sight lessons in love, everybody.
Best of luck to you. We sincerely mean that.