When’s the last time you meditated? For the record, reading a magazine while sitting on the toilet doesn’t count. What we mean is when’s the last time you were intentional about setting aside 10-15 minutes in a quiet space so that you could get into a comfortable position to deep breathe and well, meditate.
If you keep saying to yourself that you know it’s something that you should do, but you never seem to get around to doing it, there’s no time like the present because there are countless studies to support the fact that meditation can do wonders for your mind, body, and spirit.
Meditation is proven to lower your blood pressure, increase your blood circulation, reduce cortisol levels (which means that meditation de-stresses you) and, meditation can help you to relax more so that you can be more productive throughout the day and can sleep more soundly throughout the night.
According to science, there’s another reason why meditation should be a part of your daily regimen. Apparently, it also helps to make you a better partner.
When you really stop to think about it, that totally makes sense.
Aside from the fact that meditation improves your health (the healthier you are, the better you are for your partner), meditation is also about practicing mindfulness and learning how to embrace being in the moment.
When you’re mindful, you’re able to think more clearly about how your words and actions can either help or harm your partner; it can make you more proactive than reactive (which is ALWAYS a good thing). When you’re mindful, you can train yourself how to be more self-compassionate and understanding; that, in turn, makes you want to be that way in your relationship. When you’re mindful, you are able to be more patient; all relationships need a lot of that in order to thrive.
And being in the moment? Sometimes we’re so caught up in where we want to go—even in our relationships—that we don’t make the time to sit back and enjoy right where we are. If lately, there has been tension your relationship and you know it’s because of anxiety, deep-breathing and meditation may be just what you need in order to fully de-stress and refocus—to embrace the here and now.
If you’ve never meditated before, a yoga class can get you on the right track. Or (for starters), tomorrow morning, get one of your cushions and put it on the floor (again, in a quiet room). Sit or lie on it, close your eyes and breathe naturally. Pay attention to your natural rhythm, then breathe in deeper. If your mind tries to get to think about anything other than how you are breathing, you know what you are getting distracted.
Do this for 20 minutes. Once you’re done, pay attention, not only to how you immediately feel, but also to how you treat others throughout the day. Also, take note of how you interact with your partner as well.
We’re willing to bet good money that you’ll notice that meditation will make you calmer, more peaceful and more open to harmony.
Anyone in this mindset is definitely someone who is ready to take on a healthier approach in their relationships. It can only get better from there!