There comes a time in every dating person’s life when they happen upon a dating trend that is so utterly ridiculous that you almost wish it would happen to you, just so you have a story to share on Twitter.
In walks, "sneating." It’s actually a term that’s been made up by Metro.co.uk that happens so much, we’re willing to bet good money that it will catch on.
We’ll give you a couple of seconds to see if you can guess what it is.
No clue? OK. We’ll set the stage—er, dinner table—for you.
A guy calls you up to ask you on a date. You’re low-key feelin’ him and so you accept. He actually earns brownie points for suggesting that you pick the restaurant. You oblige.
When he comes to pick you up, he doesn’t honk the horn. He comes to the door, walks you to his vehicle and then opens up the passenger side door.
When you arrive at the restaurant, he opens all doors for you to walk in first which makes you think to yourself that he may be worth keeping around awhile.
He tells you to order whatever you want and as you’re both waiting for your meals to arrive, you realize that he’s really smart and super witty. So far, this is the perfect date.
And then…it happens.
The server brings the check and your date immediately starts fumbling around through his clothing. After a minute or so, he looks at you with a blank stare and says, “Crap. I’m sorry. I think I forget my wallet.”
In order to get out of washing dishes (or whatever it is people do when they can’t pay their bill these days), you pay it. The two of you ride home in silence. And—not like you would want to talk to him again anyway—you never hear from him again.
Ladies and gents, we give you "sneating!"
It’s hilarious. And it sucks.
What makes "sneating" the absolute worst is the fact that people who do it are basically only in it for the free meal. Meaning, no matter how attractive and charming you may be, they don’t really care. They’re just looking for a sucker—um, person—who they think they can get free food out of. Ugh. Just ugh.
Now that you know what "sneating" is, are there things that you can do to safeguard yourself from these leechy creepy lunatics?
First, if you haven’t been on a date with this person yet, avoid eateries at ALL costs. Recommend seeing a movie, going on a hike—ANYTHING but a place that has menus inside of it. If they’re on the up and up, they’ll take you up on the offer. If they’re shady as heck, they’ll find a way to pass. Or, they’ll call you back and never do it. Same thing.
Second, not that they deserve an explanation but if you want to go out to eat but you’d like to filter them out first, tell them that you don’t get paid until week after next which means that your budget is tight. If they try and reschedule the date, you already know they are looking to get into your pockets. Proceed with caution.
One more trick—we mean, tip. If you’re already sitting across from them at a restaurant and you want to test the waters, order something really inexpensive. If they do the same, while it could be a coincidence, it might also be a red flag that they are planning for you to pick up the tab and they’re meeting you where you’re at. Financially, that is.
"Snatching" is new, news-wise, so there’s no full-proof science on how to avoid to it yet. Hopefully, this provided you with at least enough insight on how to spot on and steps you should take if you do.
Good luck, y’all.